Schedule sex
To ensure sex doesn’t fall off the priority chart, decide in advance when to make love. Then, just do it! It may sound unromantic, but it’s better to have a quickie session than none at all.
Be appreciative
Showing appreciation regularly not only makes you feel better about yourself, it gives a romantic boost to your relationship. It takes you back in time, when you spent time appreciating and adoring your partner
Housework can be a source of niggling arguments. So divide the jobs, and together work out who does what and when. This cuts out resentment – one of the single biggest reasons why women stop wanting sex.Bedroom spunk
De-clutter the bedroom. Make the bed look inviting, use scented candles and put up pictures of just the two of you. Ban laptops, TV and everything work related.
Voicing a disagreement prevents any resentment from building up, but a blame game is a no-no. Once this is done, move on and keep the past where it belongs!Go dancing
Just turn on some music and dance. Dancing flushes the human system with dopamine, which means you feel happier and the happiness is further carried to the bedroom
Have a good argument
Voicing a disagreement prevents any resentment from building up, but a blame game is a no-no. Once this is done, move on and keep the past where it belongs!
Go dancing
Just turn on some music and dance. Dancing flushes the human system with dopamine, which means you feel happier and the happiness is further carried to the bedroom.
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Bad boys don’t cry
Public memory’s short. The media too has this curious habit of remembering only what it chooses to. Nothing proves this better than the way we have reacted to the cases against Sanjay Dutt and Salman Khan, Bollywood’s bad boys.
How did they acquire this imagery, the imagery that has won them so many hearts and, at the same time, got them into so much trouble? They were the first of the brash, rude, tough talking, adrenaline driven brats. They flaunted their machismo, their mobikes and their muscles in an industry that had, for decades, celebrated the gentle hero who loved deeply and cried copiously. Amitabh Bachchan broke that tedium with the Angry Young Man who redefined the role of the hero and made him the centre of a moral universe, ready to take up cudgels against every iniquity even if it meant breaking the law. He was the first vigilante. From the vigilante to the bad boy was but a short step.
Sanjay filled that space by his choice of roles. Salman filled it with his off screen antics. Both played bad boy with such perfection and flair that soon everyone forgot they were playing roles and began judging them as citizens. The same happened to Amitabh during his brief flirtation with politics. Controversies chased him nonstop till he finally chucked it all up and went back to movies, to show people that the actor and the politician were separate entities. KBC finally killed his acting career and made him TV’s biggest superstar, a gentle, polite and engaging middle aged host who offered middle class Indians their first opportunity to appear on entertainment TV. Bachchan buried the Angry Young Man because he knew the imagery was getting dangerously close to being identified with his real persona.
Sanjay and Salman grew up admiring Amitabh. So they stepped into their bad boy roles almost effortlessly. They were so convincing that it became their instant route to notoriety, a short cut to fame. People soon forgot Salman’s lover boy image and Sanjay’s sad, droopy eyes in Saajan. They became memorable for their sharp, edgy roles mocking authority. Some of their performances were brilliant, like Sanjay in Vaastav or Kaante. Salman got into public spats with the women in his life, walked the razor’s edge with his cheeky, OTT machismo. Neither realized their life and roles were merging perilously.
That’s how they became soft targets. People have long forgotten that Sanjay’s problems began when his father was targeted by political rivals in the Congress. They picked on Sanjay to destroy him. Sunil Dutt’s politics was based on a simple, naïve perception of nationalism. So his rivals branded Sanjay as a terrorist and arrested him under TADA, as part of the tragic Mumbai bomb blasts narrative. Even today, almost every news report, in print or television, mentions Sanjay in the context of the bomb blasts case even though the Courts have cleared him of all charges of terrorism. He has been punished only for possessing an illegal weapon and, worse, for stupidly trying to destroy evidence of it. But reality and imagination have got mixed up here. His friendship with disreputable underworld characters has not helped. We forget that the underworld’s role in terrorism was only discovered after the Mumbai bomb blasts.
Salman’s problems are similar. Killing black bucks is a terrible crime, true. But hundreds have done it before Salman and continue to do it every day, even inside protected game sanctuaries, often in connivance with wildlife wardens. But Salman being Salman, the case instantly acquired a much larger spin. And he became the face of the trial. His actor colleagues who were there with him quietly dispersed, leaving him to hold the can. He did. His other case, when he reportedly in a alcohol haze ran over five people sleeping on the street at night, killing one of them, which would have, under normal circumstances, been tried for death by negligence is now likely to be tried for culpable homicide not amounting to murder, a far more serious charge which could land him a sentence double of what Sanjay has got.
In both cases, it’s not just the crimes we are punishing but the bad boys themselves. Their reputations have done them in. Both being actors got so carried away by the roles they were playing that they simply forgot when to stop. They are paying for that. And since bad boys don’t cry, they have to smile and bear it.
The concern of those who are living in the less developed continents of the world such as Africa and South Asia is that what drives women and children into offering sex as a means of earning a livelihood is not personal choice but either poverty or extreme violence at home.
Decades ago when i conducted a detailed time use survey of members of families, especially the really poor and landless, in six villages — three inWest Bengal and three in Rajasthan — i found many destitute women were offering sex to bring in money for their households. This was especially so in West Bengal, where, paradoxically, there is inhibition in letting women work as wage earners in fields, something landless women in Rajasthan were doing. So these women either begged or very surreptitiously offered sex.
Those who are engaged in sex work vary in their responses when interviewed. Some, for the sake of their own dignity and also for attracting a certain type of appreciation and visibility, say that this is something they would like to do and will do and it is not something that should be banned or stigmatised.
However, in interviews of women who were being cared for by a Narayana guru-led institution in Kerala in the 1970s, it was found that often they left their homes with children due to violence by their spouses or elders, or even abandonment. They liked having children, something they could call their own in that world of anonymity and violence — but they were very sure they did not want their children in their profession. What does that say for freedom and rights?
The so-called ‘voluntariness’ is due to the fact that this is one occupation where you do not need any support of either training, back-up credit or even space. It was widely reported that daughters-in-law and wives of farmers who had committed suicide in parts of Maharashtra moved to bus stands and solicited as a way of maintaining their families. Women and girls from families who are ousted from land — such as the ones from the Narmada valley — and crowd the edges of small towns also offer sex for the survival of their families, whereas the men become rickshaw-pullers and daily-wage earners
We read how, in every part of India, especially Mumbai and Delhi, the police trace young girls who are reported missing in their villages to brothels. Parents, even if in terrible poverty, come all the way because the police have found out where the missing child is. Such evidence is sufficient to tell us what is actually the issue with which we need to be concerned — the push of poverty, the lack of social protection and, due to these, the many opportunities that middlemen and brokers have in India for selling the bodies of girls and boys. This has created a free-for-all space for causing injury at the very bottom of the socio-economic ladder — a veritable hellhole.
Aravind Adiga’s White Tiger reveals the condition of most crowded spaces in backward areas and the kind of ‘ugly Indian’ those places breed. In such a situation, working towards dismantling the systems by which young girls and boys are brought into sex work needs to be applauded and not trashed as interfering with the right of women to choose. What we are seeing is not choice but exploitation, cruelty and the removal of choice.
Six days after actor Sanjay Dutt was shifted to the Yerawada central prison to undergo the remaining part of his sentence, the jail authorities on Monday filed a plea before the designated TADA court in Mumbai to review its earlier order of allowing him to have home food for a month due to health problems.
The plea states that there is no provision in the prison manual to provide such facility to convicted or undertrial prisoners.
The court had, on May 16, allowed Dutt to have home food and medicines after he had surrendered to serve the remaining 42 months of his sentence following his conviction in the 1993Mumbai serial blasts case. The 53-year-old actor was first taken to the Arthur Road jail in Mumbai and later shifted to the Yerawada jail on May 22. He is currently being kept in a separate cell for security reasons.
The plea filed by Yerawada jail superintendent Yogesh Desai will be decided after hearing the prosecution and Dutt. Jail officials told TOI, “We have give details of the rights enjoyed by convicted and undertrial prisoners to the court by quoting the provisions of the prisons manual. There is a facility to provide food which is prepared in the jail to the convicts and undertrials. Apart from this, a convict is allowed to purchase eatables like biscuits and fruits from the jail canteen up to a limit of Rs 2,000 per month.”
The officials said that Dutt being a high-profile prisoner, he cannot be allowed to mix with other convicts. They said Dutt would be give the option of selecting work of his choice sometime this week.
Dutt had taken up the work of weaving cane chairs when he was last lodged at the Yerawada prison in 2007. He was then paid Rs 12.50 per day, the wages for an unskilled worker in jail.
On March 21, the Supreme Court had upheld Dutt’s conviction in the 1993 Mumbai serial blasts case. However, the court had reduced to five years the six-year jail term awarded by the TADA court.
The actor was convicted by the TADA court for illegally possessing a 9 mm pistol and an AK-56 rifle, part of the consignment of weapons and explosives brought to India for the co-ordinated serial blasts that killed 257 people and injured over 700 in March 1993.
Priya Dutt meets Sanjay in jail
Sanjay Dutt’s sister, Priya Dutt, visited the Yerawada jail on Monday. Jail officials said Priya, a member of Parliament, came to the jail around 11.45 am and was allowed to meet her brother for the stipulated 20 minutes. Details of their meeting was not known. No one else was given entry into the jail.
But please, don’t just go on rambling about anything. Also don’t talk just about you and your likes and dislikes. A interesting conversation will always linger in his mind. Make him feel special
You liked him first, so make sure that he gets to know that If yes, then you can bring back the action, courtesy tips provided by sex educator and relationship expert Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright. According to the expert, many couples become frustrated, even panicky, when their sex lives go to the wayside during stressful times. When it comes to the factor that governs a person’s sex life, it’s personality, reports Fox News.
Fulbright says that how an individual’s sex life fares depends on whether he tries to get closer to his partner in tragic times or wants to be totally alone and if he’s the withdrawing sorts, then it can create misunderstandings in the relationship.
Also, they should make an effort to stay connected during life’s highs and lows, because if they don’t, it could lead to dire consequences. And in case, sex is not on mind and also the time to be spent in the sack is less, then a person can try the following:
1. Showing appreciation for one another. Giving compliments, for example, is a simple way of expressing affection and letting your partner know that he or she is still being noticed and loved.
2. Talking daily. Chat during dinner or at bedtime. Conversations foster bonding by providing support. It’s also important for couples to check in with each other, showing concern and care for one another’s well-being with simple statements like, “Tell me about your day.”
3. Staying positive . Bite your tongue if you’re about to complain. Stressful situations are hard enough to deal with. Don’t add to it if you can avoid doing so.
4. Believing in your future together. Stressful times can make lovers doubt their ability to stay together for the long haul. Insecurity issues that arise can only make matters more difficult. Making plans is one way to indicate that you’re feeling secure about your future.
5. Helping each other with responsibilities . Approaching tasks with a team effort provides a greater sense of being in ‘this’ together.
6. Balancing ‘alone time’ and ‘together time.’ Create a sensual atmosphere, for example, soothing scents, dim lights, delicious food, and relaxing music to help you unwind.
7. Getting creative in how you’ll be intimate . Redefine your definition of sexual intimacy when needed; try a simple body massage.
That’s the easiest way to get your point cross, but make sure that you aren’t giving out signals that mean you are interested in taking things beyond the mind flirting in a single night.Try like this WATCH IT BABY
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Don’t hang around
Don’t keep hanging around him all the time. He’ll end up thinking of you as an annoying pest.
Be assertive
Don’t feel that you have to play coy all the time. Be assertive. Men like girls who take decisions. Tell him exactly what you want, just don’t get too bossy.
Not to forget, lovers should make it a point to give in to one another’s requests for intimacy whenever possible, as it might just prove to be a big stress-buster. In fact, sex has many physical and emotional benefits, which may help in boosting your desire for more sex and emotional intimacy. Sex can easily take your mind off of your worries.
Also, patience is the key to get your sex life back on track. One should make sure that your relationship, in general, doesn’t get neglected.
You may just be whispering into your girlfriend’s ear and, surprisingly, find her sighing in ecstasy… your gal may be equally surprised when you get ready for action as she caresses your inner thighs .
Welcome to the special world of pleasure zones. Let’s face it, everyone has a button to push, and if you correctly explore these erotic spots in your body, it can assure you and your lover of a memorable sexual high.
“Many of us love to believe that it’s only women who possess dozens of pleasure zones which cause excitement when touched, while men just possess one. But the truth is that most men become excited when their partner pays attention to certain special spots beyond the obvious ones. The sensory tips present in these areas are sexually aroused by mere touch, caressing or even fondling. You may not even know where these spots are, but do not fret, for that just makes finding them all the more desirable for both of you,” says Vrinda Vohra, a Delhi-based relationship counsellor.
As curiosity is part of our genetic makeup, most men and women remain curious as to what turns their partners on. Which spot can we touch to drive them absolutely crazy? Well then, today’s your lucky day because we bring you nine unconventional moan zones…
Pleasure Zone 1 – Luscious lips
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Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is completely relaxed. When the head, forehead and eye area are stoked in the right way, they trigger the most amazing feelings. The area above and on the eyelid possesses a great concentration of nerves, and giving a gentle massage along the arch of the eyebrow and onto the temple is a great way to start foreplay.”Remember that a gentle head massage can do wonders, much more than any foreplay act. Also, the spot between the outer corner of the eye and the cheekbone is very sensitive. Start with placing passionate kisses on that zone and continue wandering your lips or breathing all over your lover’s face, concentrating on these zones,” explains sexologist Jayanti Mishr.Highlighting the importance of mental relaxation, Vrinda adds, “Each person’s reaction to arousing methods depends entirely on his/her physical and mental makeup at the time of the sexual act. Stimulation of the head and face zones has more to do with cerebral arousal than physical excitement.”Develop a passion and keep the mind engaged. It elevates life from ordinary into the realm of extraordinaryDO you feel your life is repetitive and boring? I can ‘see’ a lot of hands shooting up at the question. Same old, same old… Beyond a point, we get used to everything — yes, even to the most exciting stuff, and life seems to take on a repetitive sameness that threatens to strangle us.Cyberspace is flooded with people seeking ideas to help pep up their boring lives. Suggestions range from cultivating hobbies, to making new friends, to varying one’s daily activities, or travelling and discovering the world. Of course, the ones who get bored the most are those who do not have to worry about where the next meal is coming from. For, it is only when our most basic needs are met that the mind allows itself the luxury to wander and demand variety.We envy other people, their lifestyles and jobs, imagining we would be better off if we were in their place. However, the objects of our envy are probably going through the same distressing boredom in their own lives. Travelling, wandering around, seeking out other people to kill boredom are all temporary ways of diverting one’s attention and varying the daily routine. Alcohol and drugs serve to cure depression, numbing the mind in the process rather than stimulating it. Remember, what you are seeking is not forgetfulness, but excitement that lasts and weaves its way into life, to enrich it further.What you are looking for is not a hangover, but a sprightly morning with an exciting day stretching ahead of you. Rather than having time on your hands, you want it to seem like there isn’t enough time to do all the exciting and useful things you really wish to do.
One way to never get bored is to always be on the move — mentally and physically. Be active and dynamic. Indulge in healthy hobbies, exercise and keep the mental juices flowing. Meet varied groups of friends, interact with people who stimulate your mind, keep physically active. Have dreams and set goals. As soon as you approach one goal, set your sights on the next one. Always have something to look forward to. Keep raising the bar.
The only place you can go to for excitement and for sparking innovation is not outside, but within your mind. The only way to keep life exciting and dynamic is through the mind — thoughts, ideas, innovation, etc. Where else can you find scenarios changing by the minute and enjoy all kinds of experiences without having to actually travel anywhere? Where else but in the mind can your imagination help spark off creative ideas that can change the tenor of your life?
Thoughts are just about the only things that change constantly, keeping the mind forever exciting and excited. And the best fodder for our mind are engaging movies, good books and scintillating conversations — these help us engage with other creative minds, sparking off yet more ideas and excitement in our own lives. There is nothing more exciting than new ideas which keep you moving.
You hear so many people talk about the ‘purpose’ of their lives. What does that mean? Finding the purpose of your life, the reason you live, gives a new meaning to living. It is not for nothing that some of the world’s richest people, such as Warren Buffet and Donald Trump — after making it to the top of the world’s Rich Lists — started giving away their wealth. They believe in helping the lesser privileged and giving back to society. Helping others gives a new meaning to life, leaving us with satisfaction and contentment.
Develop a passion. For eg, one of my friends has varied interests that he has been following parallel to his career all through life. He gathers information, keeps news clippings, reads whatever he can and has become an authority of sorts
on these subjects. Whether or not he takes this any further, the fact remains that his passion has helped make his life richer and given an extra edge and meaning to every day of his life. Passion for something elevates life from the ordinary into the extraordinary realm. Passion gives excitement to life and grants huge success to people. Sachin Tendulkar declared that he would give up cricket if and when he lost his “passion for the game”.
If you perceive life to have a purpose and actively engage in thinking through and fulfilling that purpose, you wouldn’t ever find life boring. The people who don’t get bored are the ones who themselves are not boring, because they have kept their minds active and their passions alive!
