Premarital sex as good as being married: Is the Madras HC ruling progressive or outrageous?
The Madras High Court ruling stating that if a man and a woman of permissible legal age engage in premarital sex, then they will, in the eyes of the law, be viewed as a married couple has come in for flak from several quarters. We ask a few Chennaiites what they think of the ruling, and get a legal expert to decode Justice CS Karnan’s ruling for our readers…
Khushbu, actress
It’s good that the judge has given such a judgment. It takes us forward. This judgment is definitely for women’s protection. If one is in a live-in relationship and after three or four years a man walks out, the woman doesn’t have any rights. In a marriage, a woman can claim alimony, and the children are protected. So this is a welcome judgment as it gives a sense of protection. I am not saying that this judgment is legitimizing premarital sex or live-in relationships, but it gives some sort of security to the women.
Bosskey, COMEDIAN
A few questions need to be addressed with regard to this ruling by the High Court. Post marriage if a couple decides to stop having consensual sex, can that amount to a divorce? If a man and a woman married to two different people, consent for sex, will they be considered married? If a married man flirts with a girl and has sex with her, should he be allowed a second marriage? What if he does the same with a dozen girls? And as per the ruling, the first night will be followed by reception and then muhurtham.
Karty, DJ
The ruling will definitely make youngsters think twice and think seriously before they embark on a relationship and before they decide to consummate their relationship.
Rishita Sawlani, model
I think it’s not right for a lot of people. The ruling does make sense in the context of the case it was given in, but saying that premarital sex can be considered marriage if a documentary evidence is provided doesn’t make sense to me. This decision makes mockery of the institution of marriage, which many of us believe in. Now there are SMS jokes around where people are asking how many wives and husbands one has.
Vikram Vivekanand, guitarist
The story reported by the media did seem absurd. And the posts on social networking sites that followed were downright hilarious. But after reading the actual ruling, it did make sense and looked as if parts of it were taken out of it and blown out of proportion.
Getting married still remains a big deal in India. Kerala is no exception. These days a few Malayalis do not marry at all, but prefer to be in live-in relationships. But this is not about them.
It is about how girls are still pushed into marriage in Kerala much before they attain the age of 18, among Kerala’s Muslims, who constitute more than 25% of the state’s population. These are nothing but child marriages.
The Child Marriage Prohibition Act, 2006, unambiguously defines a “child as a person who, if a male, has not completed 21 years of age, and if a female, has not completed 18 years of age.”
A circular issued on June 14, 2013, by Local Self Government (LSG) department of the government of Kerala has sought to reassure unconvinced registrars across the state that Muslim marriages involving a male aged less than 21 and a female aged less than 18 is legal.
The circular violates provisions in Special Marriage Act 1954. As per this Act, if a marriage has to be solemnized, the man has to be 21 years old and the woman must be 18 years of age. Both the Child Marriage Prohibition Act and Special Marriage Act are applicable to the whole of India except the state of Jammu and Kashmir.
At the moment, a debate is on in Kerala about the intent and logic behind the Congress-led UDF government’s move to sanctify such child marriages among Muslims.
The LSG department is headed by an Indian Union Muslim League minister, M K Muneer, an MBBS doctor, who told The Times of India (the TOI led with the story on June 20 in Kerala which has triggered a state-wide debate, forcing rest of the newspapers and news channels to amplify the story) that he is personally against the move to encourage child marriages among Muslims.
But the government, harried by allegations against chief minister Oommen Chandy’s office of nexus with a set of financial fraudsters, is adamant and not ready to withdraw the circular. Muslim League has 20 MLAs in the assembly and the government runs on two-seat majority in the 140 member assembly.
Interestingly, The Kerala State Muslim Youth League, the youth outfit of IUML, has come out against the circular. But many see that only as a liberal pose, but not a genuine demand to repeal the circular.
The LSG department of Kerala has trotted out two excuses for legalizing child marriages. The June 14 circular points out that the Muslim Marriage Act, 1957, does not make it mandatory for a boy to be 21 years and girl to be 18 years at the time of marriage.
The second argument is that The Child Marriage Prohibition Act, 2006, does not deem marriage between a male aged below 21 and a female aged below 18 null and void.
Saner and liberal voices among Kerala’s economically thriving Muslim community have termed the UDF government’s step as regressive.
M N Karassery, reputed literary critic and activist, says: “This would come in the way of Muslim women’s social advancement as marriage below the age of 18 would hamper their political and educational life besides thwarting their chances of getting a job. We have to protest against the order and it should be challenged before a court of law.”
Karassery says the circular smacks of “religious discrimination. “Marriageable age should be the same for all women in the country, irrespective of their religion. But this order offers a different marriageable age for the women of a particular community. This is a move to appease the Muslim clergy,” he adds.
It is important to realize that this is not a Muslim issue. This is a humanitarian issue. Muslim girls should not be denied an opportunity to pursue education and a career, which their sisters among other communities do with great vigour and conviction.
It is not surprising that Muslim girls and women are reluctant to raise their voice against the circular that has a huge impact on their lives, for such is the hold of orthodoxy among the community. Their silence should not be taken as consent for a regressive step.
Marriage seems to be bad for your sex life. Couples who have sex over four times a week before theirwedding, barely have it once a week three years after tying the knot, a survey in Britain has found.
Researchers found that before marriage, couples can hope to have sex more than four times a week. But after three years of married life, there is a dramatic drop in their sex life and most couples have sex just once every seven days.
The survey was conducted among 3,000 married couple.
Six out of ten couples think that marriage has completely ruined the excitement of having sex, Daily Mail reported.
Another astounding result of the survey was that just below half of all married couples said that their relationship was more like friends than lovers.
“Unfortunately, while you can be deeply in love with someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, it is also possible to want more from the relationship,” a spokesman for extra-marital dating service http://www.lovinglinks.co.uk was quoted as saying.
“A partner might be supportive, funny, intelligent, and kind, but if they don’t inspire confidence in the bedroom, or don’t meet expectations, sexually life can be frustrating,” he added.
He said: “It is at times like this when eyes start to wander, and folks start to think about having a no-strings affair with someone else…We have good reason to believe many relationships are strengthened by a little out-of-marriage activity.”
The survey revealed that 59 percent of couples think that their sex life had worsened after marriage.
Incidentally, eight in ten couples were in a sexual rut by having sex at the same time, in the same place and in the same positions every time they slept together.
As a matter of fact, 79 percent of the respondents were happier getting a good night’s sleep than making the effort to have spontaneous sex in the middle of the night.
Two thirds of the couples who had an affair admitted that sex was mind-blowing compared to the once-a-week sex with their husband or wife.
A fifth were ready to have a one-night stand if the opportunity presented itself or if their sex life with their partner didn’t improve. And nearly a quarter said they had a one-night stand to satisfy their craving for good sex.
The Loving Links spokesman said: “Modern marriages are becoming a little more open where sex is concerned, and these days we are quicker to forgive if someone has a little one-night stand.”
The results of the survey showed that almost two thirds of the respondents blamed their hectic lifestyle for their unhappy sex life and 80 percent were often too tired to bother once the day is over.
Here is Rosie Huntington-Whiteley topless in “Ten Times Rosie” second chapter, showing off her sexy body for our viewing pleasure. My apologies! You still don’t know who Rosie Huntington-Whiteley is yet? Well, She is the Victoria’s Secret model turn actress replacing Megan Fox in the next Transformers movie. But unlike Megan she has no problem showing off some boobies. Rosie Huntington-Whiteley’s new book “Ten Times Rosie” is a stunning 240-page hardback photography book by photographer Lensman Rankin featuring a collection of amazing images of Rosie embodying 10 different personalities while showing off her body in the designs of Paula Thomas of Thomas Wylde. In an interview with Vogue UK, Rosie said:
“Shooting Ten Times Rosie was the most incredible experience of my career,” said Rosie. “Paula, Rankin and the team worked so hard, the set had an amazing community atmosphere. I think we have created some beautiful and iconic images. I’m so proud of this project and I believe it’s something that is very close and personal to all of us as it’s a combined effort of our creativity and imagination.”
Ten Times Rosie is available to buy now from Amazon and all good book stores, priced at $60 or £40. Below is just a 43-shot snippet of the actual book.
Wearing bras make your breasts sag even more and they do nothing to reduce back pain, a French study spanning 15-years has found.
Wearing bras make your breasts sag even more and they do nothing to reduce back pain, a French study spanning 15-years has found.
Jean-Denis Rouillon, Research Professor on the French study, told Counsel and Heal that medically, physiologically, anatomically – breasts gain no benefit from being denied gravity.
On the contrary, Rouillon added, women get saggier with a bra, News reported.
The study that looked at the changes in breasts of 330 women using a slide rule and calliper concluded that breasts naturally become more toned and supported if no bra is used.
When a bra is used, the breast becomes dependent on the artificial support, making them degrade more quickly.
Moreover, the study found that going braless gives women a 7mm lift in their nipples for every year they go without, and aids in fading stretch marks.
But Rouillon noted though they validated the hypothesis that the bra is a false need, it would be dangerous to advise all women to stop wearing their soutien-gorge as the women involved were not a representative sample of the population.
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